Have you been wondering why you haven’t seen the results you’ve been working for? The scale isn’t budging?
It’s easy to think you are different from other people, to believe that what works for others won’t work for you, and to look at your busy life and think there’s simply no time to achieve what you want to achieve.
Guess what, it’s all kind of BS.
We all spin these myths about how we don’t have enough time, our families cook fattening, unhealthy foods, the kitchen at work is full of bad snacks, or reason that we’re just too tired or don’t have enough money to get the fitness results we want. I’m going to say it again…it’s all kind of BS.
You have take responsibility for where you are right now — the good, bad, the challenging.
“Everything you experience today is the result of choices you have made in the past” – Jack Canfield
So, here’s what I want you to do…because maybe you don’t quite buy that you are responsible for every single aspect of your life right now…
Take Responsibility Exercise
Ask yourself these questions:
- Have ever gone to an event or dinner and ate too much?
- Have you ever gone to the kitchen at work and totally gorged yourself at 4pm after a tough meeting?
- Have you stopped at a fast food drive thru because you were late for some thing (or maybe not late)?
- Did you skip a workout because you got out of work late?
- Did you forget to bring your workout clothes to work for your lunchtime workout?
- Did you accept an impromptu lunch/dinner invitation on your workout day?
- Did you attend a family dinner and eat too much or a bit of everything?
- Did you trainer cancel on you?
- Did class get canceled?
Think about how your reaction to the little upsets is where you have the power to change the outcome of any situation. So, next time when you lose a few pounds and then go out for a chocolate sundae to celebrate, remember that you chose that sundae and you chose to celebrate in that way. If you’re okay with it, then enjoy the moment, but don’t spend any time blaming a holiday, your family, or outside influences who “made you do it”.
To improve your ability to take responsibility, all you have to do is review some of the events in the past that you blamed for derailing your diet or workouts.
Write It Down
Take out a piece of paper or open up notepad and think about last week. Write down a few times where either you did exactly what you wanted or you felt like someone/something was pulling you off course.
- Write down the event or situation.
- Think about your reaction/response to the situation.
- Consider the ways you could have responded to the situation that would have completely changed the outcome.
- Realize how your outcome could have been different simply by you choosing a different reaction or response.
Let me give you an example of me … because I can blame outside sources with the best of them — though I try to be aware of when I do this. This happened more than a year ago when I was first starting to eat clean. I was already feeling frustrated and tense for cutting out a lot of sugar, so this just added fuel to my fire.
My in-laws came for a visit and they make so much food and I feel angry at them for making me eat too much.
After a few weeks of too much food intake, I blow up at them. (sadly, all true)
Upon reflection, I could have simply chosen to eat less and be a little more tactful when telling everyone that I didn’t want anymore.
My outcome would have been me feeling more confident about my food choices, no weight gain, and my family would have respected my choices (but probably will always want me to eat “more”…it’s the parent in them…that’s what we do…I should know that!)
Now it’s your turn.
Leave a comment below! Write your situation/response/outcome and then how you would have changed your response to create the new outcome!